The Simply Matchmaking team is here to answer some more reader questions about dating do's and don'ts! Below are some frequently asked questions we regularly receive and our take on how we would approach each situation! Email us anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org for tips, advice and thoughts from our team!
"I had a great first date with my match and I am looking forward to seeing her again. I was wondering if you had any suggestions for something fun to do on our second date? I want to step it up and go beyond just dinner or drinks. Thanks!" - Second Date Slump
Hi there! - We are so glad that you two are going on a second date! While we think drinks or dinner are totally fine for a second date, we do agree that by the third date you should try something different to shake things up a bit. This allows you to see your date in a different environment and you will then be able to get to know one another better as a result. We suggest doing something interactive that correlates with an interest or hobby that the two of you share. For example, if you both love wine, take your date to a wine tasting. Or if you are both into living an active lifestyle, do something active like a hike, bike ride or kayaking. If you need more ideas you can also check out our most recent blog; https://www.simplymatchmaking.com/insights/summer-date-ideas-in-the-pacific-northwest . Hope this helps and best wishes for your second date!! :)
"I recently went on a third date with someone and I really like them! We had been texting and talked on the phone a few times, but after our most recent date I haven’t heard anything from them. Am I being ghosted?? Do you think I should reach out or just assume that they don’t want to see me again? I am so confused because I thought we had a really great time!" - Ghosted?
I am so sorry to hear this! Excellent communication skills and the ability to be honest are both so important in the dating world. To be perfectly honest, someone who ghosts people unfortunately lacks both of those qualities! But life can be crazy, people get busy, things happen and at the end of the day, you may have been sending them mixed signals at some point too. Maybe they are not sure if you are into them after all, who knows! There could be a million different explanations as to why this has happened. If you feel you need answers and closure, go ahead and reach out to them to get to the bottom of this by sending a friendly text checking in and hopefully you get a response. And if you don’t, then you will know that this person is undoubtedly not your match!! Many people are very afraid to do this, but our best advice over here is always wear your heart on your sleeve and go after what you want. Hope everything works out, my fingers are crossed for you!!
"I wanted to let you know that she and I ended things. She said she felt more a friendship connection instead of a romantic one. I feel like this happens to me a lot unfortunately. How do I stop myself from being friend-zoned?? Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!" - Always the Friend
We are so sorry to hear that things didn’t work out between the two of you! I think the biggest mistake that can lead to people getting friend-zoned is not being flirty enough or showing genuine interest on the first couple of dates. Little gestures like giving a genuine compliment to your date (doesn’t have to be only on their appearance) is something that will show the other person that you are interested in them romantically. It is a good idea to continue to give compliments to your date on things that you like about them and that make you two a good match. Another important tip that we give our clients is to try sitting next to your date at the bar while facing your body towards them. This makes for a more romantic and comfortable date setting as opposed to sitting across from each other interview style at a table in a dining room. Whenever appropriate you can touch your date’s hand or be flirty in whatever way feels right. Lastly, wrap up every date being verbal about how you feel! When you meet someone you like be sure to tell them at the end of the night what an amazing time you had and how excited you are about them! Don’t ever let your match leave a date feeling unsure about if you are into them. When you are excited about them, be verbal and let it be known! Hope this is helpful!