It can be hard to figure out if there is a romantic connection with someone during that first initial date. See why we recommend at least 3 dates to figure out if the relationship has some real potential!
People expect sparks to fly on first dates (like in the movies), but the idea of love at first sight rarely happens. We have setup thousands of first dates, and only a small percentage of the time we hear that type of first date feedback. Here are the most common reasons why your second and third date will really shine:
Nerves got in the way.
First dates are always nerve-wracking. You are getting to know someone new while also trying to portray the best version of yourself. These nerves can make it difficult for you and your date to be yourselves, so you really can’t tell whether you are compatible. Second and third dates tend to be less daunting because you have met the person before and have gotten the sometimes-awkward introductions out of the way.
Having an 'off' day.
We all have our off days. Maybe you’re stressed about something at work or are a tad under the weather. Whatever the reason, an off day is not uncommon and certainly shouldn’t be why you choose not to pursue a potential relationship. You never know when a date doesn’t go well because of a genuine incompatibility or just because one of you is feeling a bit out of sorts. So, give it at least a few dates so you have the opportunity to really get to know your date when they are at their best and you are at yours!
Venue wasn't quite right.
Sometimes a date will be unsuccessful for reasons beyond your control. We always recommend choosing a setting such as a coffee shop, bar, or an outdoor space for a first date because it gives you the opportunity to have a great conversation, unlike when a seeing movie or show, while also allowing you to determine how long you want the date to last. But, if you went to a steak house with a vegetarian or a bar with someone that doesn’t drink, the vibe might miss the mark. Tailor the second date to something relaxed and comfortable -- at a location that might appeal to both of you.