The Simply Matchmaking team is here to answer some reader questions about dating do's and don'ts! Below are some frequently asked questions we regularly receive and our take on how we would approach each situation! Email us anytime at firstname.lastname@example.org for tips, advice and thoughts from our team!
“Hi team, I am super excited for this first date that I am going on but I am also super nervous! What if we have nothing to talk about? What can I do to calm my nerves?" - Nervous Nelly
First and foremost, we are SO excited for you! First dates can be super nerve racking, but they are also so exciting! Don’t stress too much about it, there is so much to learn about one another! Here are a few Do’s and Don’ts to help:
- DO leave yourself plenty of time to get ready and get to the date. You don’t want to stress yourself out even more by being late or pressed for time. Take your time and relax while getting ready.
- DO wear something that you are comfortable in and that makes you feel confident. If you feel great about yourself, it will help keep the nerves at bay.
- DO take some deep breaths and maybe even try out a "power pose" in the mirror before you leave. Anything that will center you and remind you of how amazing you are! Wishing you a wonderful time on your date!
“Hi guys, I recently went out with someone and am not totally sure how I feel about them. The date was really fun and we had a great conversation that flowed well, but I am not sure that I felt any romantic chemistry or connection. Should I continue to see this person or just let it go?" - Confused
It sounds like you had a great first date! We tell our clients that romantic connections will always take time to develop and we truly believe that it takes at least three dates to really get to know someone. If you are unsure, we definitely think you should give this person another shot! Romantic chemistry and attraction are not always instant and sometimes take a little time to grow. Try a fun, different type of activity for your next date to switch things up to see another side of them! You never know what might happen if you keep an open heart and mind :)
"Hi SM, I recently went on a first date with a wonderful woman! I want to show her that I am really interested, but I am not sure how to do this in a way that is appropriate since we just started seeing each other. Thoughts on where to go from here?" - Clueless
First things first, you definitely should reach out to her (preferably via a phone call) to set up a second date. Don’t ever wait longer than 24 hours to ask a woman out again after a date! You need to keep the ball rolling so that you two won't lose momentum and interest. Taking this initiative shows her that you are truly excited about getting to know her. Second, plan a great, thoughtful second date - think about small things she mentioned liking on your first date and tie that in somehow. And lastly, don’t forget the power of a great and thoughtful compliment. Bring all these together and she will definitely know you are interested! Good luck!