See our easy tips to make any first date fun, light and engaging!
Choose the right spot.
The perfect spot for a first date may seem like a daunting task -- How will this date go? What is this person into? Try to avoid the typical meal or movie date... they are too long if things are not going as planned. Instead, try picking a cute coffee shop or quiet bar for your next first date. Bars and cafes have something for everyone, how could they not approve? By only committing to a drink, the date can last however long you want it to. If it’s going well you can sip slowly and talk for hours, or even head to the restaurant next door for a bite.
Be engaged in the conversation.
Make it your goal to really get to know them... beyond those surface-level questions. This is easier said than done! Engage in the conversation by listening and asking thoughtful follow up questions. Reciprocity is key, when they share something about themselves or ask you a question, be sure to share a similar story and ask a similar question back to them. Make a point to be prepared with some conversation starters to have a game plan in place. These will help you feel more comfortable and prepared to make that great first impression.
Seems pretty simple, but just like starting a great conversation, it can be easier said than done. We all tend to act differently when we are nervous and want to highlight the best in ourselves. These can cause you to act differently than you might in other situations and can sometimes make it difficult for your date to really get a sense of who you are. The best way to handle nerves is to prepare yourself for your date beforehand; wear something that makes you feel confident and give some thought to what you want to talk about. Additionally, keep in mind that you can be honest with your date because they want to get to know the real and authentic you as much as you want to get to know them!
Be prepared for that second date.
We have been trained to believe sparks and chemistry should fly the moment you meet that person. While it could happen, it's rarely the case. Even after that "perfect" first date, you hardly know them! If after that first date you are on the fence, we recommend going out again and giving it another shot. First dates can be awkward and uncomfortable -- second and third dates are when you can really get to know someone. Keep in mind that a perfect match shouldn't require perfect compatibility and schedule that second date right then!