5 Things We Learned at The Great Love Debate

- Kristin H.

Being single can be hard and dating can be scary so it can be easy to forget that dating is supposed to FUN! Here are five things that I learned from Ali and the other guests from The Great Love Debate:

Last week our Matchmaker Ali was a guest at The Great Love Debate, a live interactive show about dating and being single in Seattle. The show was hilarious and we laughed a ton, and while there was definitely a comedy aspect to the show, I felt like I actually learned some things about how to have a better dating experience. 

1.  Make dating a priority in your life.
There are so many of us that want love SO badly, but still haven't found it because we use our busy schedules as an excuse for not getting out there! If you really want to find love, you have to make it a priority in your life. Everyone's lives are crazy with work, family, friends, the gym etc., but if you carve out time - even if its just going on one date a month, your chances of finding someone become much higher! Makes sense right?
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2. Open yourself up.
We always say to keep an open heart and open mind in love. Most of us think we have a "type" or a list in our minds of all the things that our perfect partner has to have in order for us to be in love. Of course everyone has certain things that they are attracted to in another person, but sometimes we can be overly specific. If we are willing to let some of those things go, you might meet someone who has some has some but not all of your requirements and you might be surprised to find that they weren't really that important!
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3. Give it three dates.
Everyone is guilty of being quick to judge on a first date! We often have super high expectations for first dates and when someone doesn't meet those or fit your exact specifications, we want to throw the towel in immediately. But no one is their best on the first date or even the second, so giving people a second or third chance is definitely in your best interest!
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4. Everyone wants to feel needed and wanted.
Brian Howie made the point that these days men often feel that they aren't needed. This is completely understandable because women are amazing and independent! But everyone wants to feel needed - men and women alike! If you want your relationship to progress, be sure to make one another feel important!
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5. ​Take the time to notice the people around you.
Everyone has their faces down and eyes locked into their phones! Now more than ever, we need to look up and take a look at the world around us. You can't be approachable or start a conversation when you're scrolling through your feeds. Next time you pull out your phone in public, look around and take note of the eye color of each person passing by - this is an easy way to bring yourself back into reality! You never know who might be standing next to you in line or sitting next to you on the bus! ​
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